The Moon spoke to me this morning. The dreamscape sky was streaked with clouds, as the Moon emanated white light tipped in gold. Two days before its upcoming peak, it felt and looked like a complete full moon, and spoke in symbols of creation, birth, and deep rest. She reminds me to be quiet, to receive, to open, to Be. I noticed the time as I began to journal: 4:44 AM.
We are all working so hard, trying so hard, being so busy, and never quite making the grade as we keep thinking if we just do more, then things will get better. The old thinking that if we just fix all the problems, force ourselves or others to change what’s wrong, then we’ll get some respite.
The Moon herself, pregnant with Light, knows she is going to take a respite, even at the peak of her birth. The peak of the lunar eclipse, 4:02 AM EST, is just minutes after the peak of the full moon at 3:58 AM EST. The Moon sings a lullaby, asking us to rest the mind, the restlessness, the doing and struggle, even as we birth the new. We can learn from her, as she reflects what is happening within each willing heart. She is about to give birth, yet is open to the Void, surrendering to the darkness as births the Light of creation into form. After all, it is from the Void that all is created.
What is happening collectively is already in motion. Birth is imminent. The question is, what are you choosing? If you could detach from the river that just goes with the flow of what the majority is up to, what the people around you find acceptable, reasonable or normal, what do you, YOU, authentically want to contribute into the world that expresses your best and brightest self? How would you like to experience your birth?
The Moon reflects to us that even at the moment of birth, we can slow down, detach from the doing, and rest. It is calling us to remember that even now, as we so clearly see all the changes that need to occur within ourselves and the world in order to sustain life on this planet and have a world that works for all, there is space to rest, reflect, and BE.
This space is the eternal Void, where ALL possibility resides. If you allow yourself to slow down and just BE, even just a bit, you open yourself to new possibilities and solutions. AND, you find more of the peace and trust you are wanting.
You already ARE giving birth, always in the cycle of creation, so why not cut yourself some slack? Natural birth cannot be rushed, and great trust and surrender are called for in the process.
The call now is to relax a bit, even in the middle of creating and doing. This means relaxing the mind, caring for your body, and choosing more deliberately where you put your attention. It’s less about doing things differently and more about being aware of your own judgments or doubts about how you are doing, how others are doing, or how the planet herself is doing. This frees the flow of creating from the space of abundance and trust in each step of the process.
I woke from a dream this morning where I was teaching someone about manifestation. The image in the dream was of an evening landscape of a forest. Then, placed over part of this forest was a blank white sheet, like a piece of paper. This was creation, the blank slate, the artist’s canvas. You could put anything you want on that piece of paper and create anew.
As the Moon shines in brilliant white light this Friday, and is then partially covered in darkness, it feels like the mirror opposite of that dream of creation.
Creation is natural, as we came here to put into form and experience the Divine in all ways. Instead of getting hung up on the doing, the Moon asks us to relax into the trusting of our ability to tap into the infinite, all possibility, and then to create from that empty space.
The act of birthing anew is natural, a cycle that repeats again and again, and does not need to be learned or mastered. What we master is our ability to rest in the knowing that All Is Well and in the responsibility that we are ARE creators, that we ARE ourselves birthed from that Void, and create from that Void. The “how” and the “doing” of creating and manifesting is as natural as breathing. It is time to awaken more to this truth, and to relax the minds’ desire to focus on controlling our creations. Instead, we are being called to reside more in the BEING, where we flow through each contraction of the birthing process. As we do, there is great peace available, and trust in each step, each breath.
Let this full moon partial lunar eclipse remind you to relax and trust more. The more you slow down, the faster it all gets done.
As the longest near-total eclipse of this century and the longest in the past 580 years, lasting 3-1/2 hours, the Moon is showing us we have plenty of time to rest, even when it feels like time is running out.
When we’re stressed, we think moving faster and doing more will alleviate that stress and make it all better. The truth is, your heart knows the way, and by slowing down and being kinder, gentler, and more compassionate with yourself and others, not only do you get things done, but the space of miracles, ease and a universe that supplies all your needs comes to the forefront.
This upcoming eclipse could also be calling you to empty out, to release some of those things that are cluttering your space. Just notice if you are being called, be it to clean out or get rid of things in your home that don’t support the greater birthing of your best and brightest self, or to clean out your body with lighter foods or a bath, or to release any judgments or interpretations about yourself or reality that have created limitations or doubts. Make space for the new that is birthing!
Whether we believe it or not, we are constantly creating, be it from judgment, fear, doubt and forcing outcomes, or creating from joy, trust and service to All. We ARE All creator beings, and it is time to choose how you experience this truth and to claim back the truth that YOU are the creator, the co-creator, and no other human has greater power to create than you. Do you want to expand from the limits of your own fears? You always have a choice of how you interpret reality and how you personally experience any circumstance. I choose for you to choose to BE YOU, to see that you are a miracle, beautiful and perfect as you are, and that the best you can do for this world is to shine out unique YOU, even if others disagree. Of course some will disagree, but you can choose to agree that we are all here to be unique, free to choose what we want to think, feel, believe or create.
The Moon is showing us the balance of the darkness and the light, how they are not separate and can support each other, teach each other, and can both be healing.
We all want to be our best and brightest selves, to have a joyful abundant life and be of service to the world in a way that is fun and fulfilling.
Those on the conscious path of awakening, who lean into living a spiritual life, read books, take classes, and take on practices like meditation or yoga. We want guidelines, rules and practices that show us the way.
However, no amount of following the rules or seeking knowledge will fulfill the desire inside us that burns brightly, and at other times may feel stomped out completely. This is because no outside source can fulfill our calling to be connected to, in union with, our true divine nature.
Others can support us, guide us, remind us and inspire us, but can’t do it for us.
While immersing in different meditation practices, I remember reading the book, “A Path with Heart: A Guide Through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual Life” by Jack Cornfield. One line struck me that I still remember today:
“Much of spiritual life is self-acceptance, maybe all of it.”
It can be easier to focus our attention outward, to aim toward being a good and right person by practicing being kind, compassionate and loving to others. This is important, powerful and transformative. We are all connected and mirrors for each other.
Human nature is such that it is easy to seek approval from others, and to think that someone knows better than us about how we should live our lives. The path of awakening involves becoming independent and self-empowered, learning the ropes from our parents and teachers, and then diving in on our own.
There are two aspects that lift us up, that truly heal on all levels, that I’d like to share today.
RELEASING SELF-DOUBT: TRUSTING YOURSELF
I’m sure you have been inspired by those who are confident and passionate about what they are up to. What you see in them, even if superficial, is the possibility of trusting yourself and going for your greatest dreams. This means, regardless of anyones’ opinion, that you make YOUR truth, your choices, your unique perspective, the priority.
No one has the answer to life’s biggest questions, and everyone has their opinion, be it backed by science, society, teachers, churches, personal experience, or anything else.
No one can force you to agree with them, even if you walk in a society that agrees with a limited reality that you, yourself, are awakening from.
Ultimately, releasing self-doubt is one of the most powerful aspects of awakening. It is freedom. It is Love.
What would your life look like, feel like, from moment to moment if you trusted yourself? If even in every “mistake”, you chose to trust that you are learning and growing? If you couldn’t get it wrong? If you didn’t compare yourself to anyone else, nor look for approval from anyone?
On the table is trusting yourself. And who is this YOU that you are trusting? It is Divine You, your soul, the YOU that is a spark of the Divine, as we all are. It is the You that can be the loving parent to that parts of you that are afraid and hurt.
Try on for one day putting your hand on your heart and declaring, “In this moment, I trust myself. I trust the Universe.”
No matter what you think, what you say, what you do, for that day you declare, “I trust myself.”
Oh, yes, doubt will come up, and by trusting yourself, you have the opportunity to lovingly notice the doubt, the fears, and address them directly. You give yourself space to love all of you, exactly as you are. It’s not one day, once you have the perfect body, job, relationship, knowledge, spiritual practices, or health. It’s right now, exactly as you are, trusting that all you are experiencing is a catalyst, a big push by yourself and the universe, to claim your power, your beauty, that you are a great gift to this world, exactly as you are right now. Trust yourself, and choices become easier and faster. Trust yourself, and rules soften to acts of loving kindness toward yourself and others, because, after all, we are here to expand Love into all the darkness.
Judgment, like doubt, doesn’t just disappear. Others may say you’ll get to a point where it does, but don’t be fooled. We are judging machines! Just the fact that we live in a physical world, in these amazing physical bodies, puts us in a situation where we judge. In this world, there IS right and wrong. There are plants that are nutritious, and ones that are poisonous. Those directions on Google Maps are, well, usually right. Of course, this mechanistic view of reality is only a piece of who we are, as beings of Light in a physical body. But we must use judgment to function in and understand this world.
Judgment can be charged with emotions when we declare, “This is right,” or, “This is wrong.”
Well, this is where we get ourselves in a bit (or a lot) of trouble. As judging machines, combined with looking for approval and belonging from others, we mistakingly use our ability to understand how to function in a physical world to then judge the shit out of ourselves and others. We can be SO dramatic!
This spirals back to self-trust.
If you trusted yourself and your choices, and owned your mistakes and painful experiences as learning opportunities, judgment would soften its grip. This includes when you notice yourself judging and then judge yourself for it!
I have noticed that my judgment directed towards others actually begins with my own self-judgment. These strict rules of conduct within myself are then projected onto others like a knee-jerk reaction, or I get defensive of their judgment toward me, even if they haven’t said a word. Their judgment is really none of my business, because the truth is that if that person loved themselves without judgment, they wouldn’t project any judgment outward.
I like the word, “discernment”.
It gives a sense of detachment in any situation.
Throughout our day, we are emotionally drained by our judgments. We are constantly judging ourselves and others, and a gift of living a spiritual life is that we begin to notice and interrupt the habit of judgment.
Here’s an example of judgment, and how draining it can be:
Your alarm goes off, and you hit snooze. The judgments, not in your conscious awareness: “I don’t feel like going to work today… I don’t like my job… My boss is an asshole... I hate that I HAVE to work… I said I’d get up early to meditate or exercise and here I am yet again not doing that, I’m so tired and it’s because I’m fat and I can’t believe I ate that last night… Why do I have to be the one to get up early and take care of my partner/children/the dog?... I’m not good enough... I’m not doing it right...”
That’s exhausting, and I’d go back to sleep too!
Starting to notice those habitual judgments gives you freedom to shift out of them in the moment. It’s not about telling yourself you shouldn’t judge, because that’s another judgment, and one you’re not going to win at.
In wanting to be a good person, we often put a band-aid on our judgments. A good person wouldn’t judge others, feel resentment, anger, fear or hurt. I’ll just ignore those things and be positive today. I’ll focus on work and being productive. Ignoring ourselves, we might notice we shop, eat, watch tv, scroll social media, or talk shit about others’ behavior…and judge ourselves for doing so.
Think of judgment as a call to compassion and loving attention.
I like the word "discernment". It gives a sense of detachment from any situation. Choosing to discern vs. judge means that you look at yourself, others, or any situation from the view of the observer. What you're detaching from is that your thoughts, others' thoughts, your body and this physical world, or any of your experiences - past, present or future - define you. When we think these things define us, we are greatly attached and emotionally reactive! Your intention to discern vs. judge uplifts you to a larger part of yourself, the YOU, your soul, that knows you are an eternal being having this temporary experience whose greatest illusion is that you are separate from everything. Discernment makes choices easier, as you are aligned with your heart, your soul, and Divine Guidance. In this space, there is more ease, less attachment, and more flow. The frontal cortex of your brain works better because in that detachment, you are relaxed, so you can see more clearly in any situation, connected to divine intelligence and wisdom.
Self-awareness is a spiritual practice, and one of loving compassionate discernment. This awareness comes from a commitment to creating a safe space TO BE SEEN. We all want to be seen and loved exactly as we are. Filled with judgments, it’s not so safe for YOU to SEE YOU, is it?
With a willingness to release judgment, all those aspects inside us that run away, fight, or hide frozen in a cave, can come nakedly into the light of our loving attention. We’re here to create a world where all are seen, loved, respected, included, thriving and cared for.
This starts with YOU and YOU.
Remember, spiritual practices are exactly that: PRACTICE. There’s no need to judge your practice!
Here is a practice around judgments:
Decide that today you are going to notice your judgments. You might notice one, or you might notice 1000.
When you notice a judgment, you might notice the story that goes along with it that justifies why it is correct, why you should continue to make that thing wrong or bad. This story might include physical proof, based on your experience, science, religion, the news, or well-documented data.
Nonetheless, just think of it as a story.
Let yourself notice the feeling that comes with the judgment. Place a hand to your heart and say, “I love you. Tell me about it. I’m here for you.” Trust whatever you notice. This could be emotions, thoughts, or physical sensations. Imagine you are viewing yourself from outside you, like you would a movie or if you were a bird high in the sky.
This noticing is freeing your energy! No running, no fighting, no hiding!
Next, bring in even more loving compassion and kindness. Imagine that the part of you with that judgment is a hurt child, or an innocent baby. How would you treat them? Would you yell at them, tell them to shut up, console them with toys or food, or hold them in your arms and let them know how much you love them?
This gives you an opportunity to uplift out of judgment, and be honest about your needs in the moment. Judgment is not bad, it just is part of the human deal. Once you let yourself actually notice a judgment, you can lift to seeing it as an opportunity. What is the opportunity? That’s for you to see. It could be love, compassion, forgiveness, tears of release, gratitude, setting boundaries, having more fun, being honest about what you want or need, or admitting a great dream or vision you have.
These opportunities are discernments, not judgments. And they come by releasing the judgment of the judgment, a willingness to be with YOU, exactly as you and are not in this moment.
Phew, what a relief! Let peace, gratitude, love or joy wash over you, because YOU are here to awaken to the FACT that you ARE perfect exactly as you are, perfectly unfolding, perfectly on your path, even those times it’s filled with pain, fear, doubt, or judgments!
SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH: Why I Am Vegan
I was with a close friend the other day, one whom I’ve been friends with for almost 20 years. We were in a health food store and I said, “Do you know how passionate I am about animal rights, caring for the planet, and being vegan?” She responded, “No, I didn’t know that.”
Wow! In the name of trying to not upset anyone, push my views on them, let them have their freedom to choose and trust their choices, and to not make them feel I am trying to change them or make them wrong, I have been hiding out. I have shut off my voice, which is here to be expressed. Wisdom is to be shared, and yes, I’m not interested in going to protests and fighting against what’s wrong. However, this does not equate to shutting your self-expression down completely.
I can only communicate as best I can from my soul and heart, with the intention to share my wisdom and knowledge with others for the upliftment of the planet, in service to all beings everywhere.
When you hear a viewpoint that is different from your own, it is human nature to think the person is judging your view as wrong and trying to change your mind. Furthermore, it’s easy to make yourself wrong too, as you hear someone doing something you think YOU should be doing but aren’t.
Whatever we are passionate about, it is asking to be expressed in the world, in the physical. It’s why we are here! And each of us has our unique passions.
I realized something about Christianity not so long ago. I realized that if, with all my being, I believed in a vengeful punishing God, that if you do not follow certain rules (dependent on what church you’re in and their interpretation of words in the Bible), or do not “take Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior,”, you will go to Hell, eternal damnation and suffering: I, too, would do everything in my power to save as many people as I possibly could from such a fate!!!
So I am going to be the Lorax now and speak for the trees, and the animals, and the waters, and the soils, and Gaia herself.
I have been passionate about animal rights and caring for the planet since I was a teen. I volunteered for Rainforest Action Network, and went to animal rights protests into my 20’s.
I’ve dived into my heart and spiritual connection with Gaia, read the research, watched the documentaries, and I’ve witnessed myself go the easy route. The easy route started because I noticed I was filled with judgment on others, and I didn’t want to be anymore. Then it just became easier to fall in line, to be vegetarian, or to eat chicken because “my husband and son want it”, or eat dairy, or fish and chips, or whatever, because it’s just so yummy.
Here’s the thing: EVERYTHING is consciousness. Animals are people. Plants are people. The Waters are people. Humans are people. Gaia, our beloved planet, is a conscious being. We affect her, not only in our actions, but in our emotions and thoughts.
The earth has provided us a way to thrive and live, with air, water and food as the basics. There is plenty for everyone.
Meat as a business, an industry, encouraging us to consume more than we need, and having no regard to the impact on the earth or the treatment of the animals, isn’t working.
This is also true of farming vegetables etc., but I won’t go there right now.
My stand is this: WE HAVE A CHOICE to eat animals, or not.
We DO NOT have to eat meat! We have so much abundance that we can be healthy and thrive without eating meat (or seafood, poultry, dairy). For those who are starving, who live in places where meat is their only source in winter etc., that’s a different situation. Most of us are not in this situation, and those that are often live with respect to the Earth, hunting for their own food and use all parts of the animal.
I’m not asking you to change your mind, to stop eating meat, to go vegan, or MOST importantly to make yourself wrong for your choices now.
We all do baby steps for the well-being of the whole. We try to use a little less water, buy a little less disposable things we don’t really need, buy used clothing, or maybe eat a little less meat. I will buy used leather, like Birkenstocks, for it honors the animal to use the product as long as possible. I use money to express my values, choosing to invest in the things, like organic produce or pasture-raised eggs for my husband, that reflect my values and stand for the planet.
Do what feels right inside to YOU. What I have experienced is that when you allow yourself to be honest about your values, what’s authentically important to you, and not from making yourself or anyone else wrong, your choices naturally shift.
Making choices that serve All, that are loving, forgiving, towards our biggest dreams and goals, and that aren’t from fear or doubt, are very often OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE. Crazy but true. So have mercy on yourself and others!
It’s time to get out of our comfort zones, to notice our comfort habits, and powerfully choose to say, “No, thank you, I AM going to do this uncomfortable thing,” or say, “Yes, I’m going for comfort right now,” and be totally lovingly right with your choice.
You are here to BE YOU. You don’t need to apologize or hide out. You don’t need to compare yourself to anyone, nor do you need anyone’s approval. And when you notice taking actions from that fear of disapproval, you can keep going anyway, knowing you are paving the way for others to be free to be themselves too.
We can do this, and we can do this much easier when we admit what is important to us, what we are passionate about, and support each other.
I support you 100% in all that you are, and I know that you are perfectly on your path. Let’s keep going, releasing those old comfort patterns and beliefs, and opening to a world where All beings thrive, are loved and seen, respected and cared for.
Can you feel the Equinox energy? I watched the Full Moon illuminate All, sending pure streams of Divine Light to the darkest places, and amplifying the shadows to be seen even more.
When I awoke yesterday, I experienced tremendous gratitude, streams of tears, for my freedom. My freedom to choose! No one can take away my free will to choose how I feel, what I think, or how I interpret reality. How AMAZING is that?!!
This is what’s on the table right now: FREEDOM. In the darkness of fear, judgment or hate, there is no freedom. Those of us who want freedom for All must go inside and be honest with ourselves first. Of course, if you are exhausted, overwhelmed, pressured by others, afraid of future outcomes, or angry, you won’t have the freedom to be honest with yourself. These feelings and judgments cloud your thinking, inhibiting that intelligence located in the frontal cortex due to the flight, fight or freeze response.
We are quickly heading toward unity, my beloveds. The Truth, the pure stream of Divine Intelligence that sees, honors and loves All, allows the rest to fall away. Things are falling apart and the pull to judge and fight an opposing view is stronger than ever, it’s true, and that’s good news! Love All-Ways Wins!
You are not lost, you are being called to take a look inside you and be honest with who you really are, what you value, and what you really want. As you free yourself from the chains of who you think you are based on social, familial, peers', or external experts' opinions, you find YOU!
What others do, what others want, is none of your business. Love them, gift them their path and freedom, and disengage from taking any sides or trying to convince anyone of your views. If inside you see that you MUST fight the bad and wrong in the world, then do it 100% and trust yourself!
Stand in your freedom and truth so others may do the same. Listen to others with respect for their views, for they are doing the best that they can in any moment, and it’s not for you to judge. This can open space for them to hear you and respect your views, or not. You’re not here to be heard as much as BE, and take actions from your authentic nature.
You may want to step away from the news, from social media, from anything that pulls you toward fear, doubt, confusion, righteousness, or judgment. Take this time now to slow down and breathe, to be in nature, to put your hand on your heart. Then go inside and find out how you’re doing and what is honestly important to you, what you value, and what serves to amplify you knowing that you are here to have the freedom to BE YOU.
What’s going on the planet, on a never before seen GLOBAL level, is exactly what is needed at this time in our transformation. It’s good to touch in with what’s going on, but you may want to put less attention on that and more attention on YOU, on whatever supports your peace, love and joy. Are your values and inner knowings aligned with your words and actions? Where have you given your power and freedom away, to what external source outside of YOU? You CAN trust yourself, even if others scream at you with great intelligence and logic that you can’t. It is time, and you are FREE to choose what you feel and think. Your awareness, and being honest with yourself, gives you the opportunity to choose. You CAN choose trust, love, joy, peace, compassion, vibrant well-being at any moment! It begins with loving attention on you, releasing judgment, and instead being the kind compassionate parent to All of you.
When it comes to creating your future, I’ve noticed lately that a lot of people in my life aren’t quite sure what they want.
We move around the country and I am the planner. How do I choose where to go next? I start by trusting myself. It’s been an AMAZING ride so far, almost 2 years! I have noticed that our adventure is about enjoying where we are, not about where we go. It’s a big country, and I could go crazy with where to go, what to see, where to stay. I research from a place of joy, trust and detachment. If I notice I am stressed, doubtful, or overwhelmed, I take a break from planning. With more people RVing than ever before, 2021 is a crazy year for full time RV living, and if you can believe it, I’m already planning 2022. My mind says, “But I want to be free, to flow from place to place, not plan everything out so specifically.” That’s nice, AND, I Am Open. So be it if I book places a year in advance, and it will unfold as it does (e.g. in comes COVID last year). I could doubt myself, I could say we’re missing out on xyz things we could be doing or experiencing somewhere else. I could worry that my husband won’t enjoy my choices. I could worry there’s “not enough” for us, that we won’t find good places to stay since there are so many people RVing now. There’s a pull toward that worry and doubt, and I catch it and say, “No, thank you.”
I also see worry and doubt with the people in my life who are unsure of what they want. What if I make the wrong choice? What if I made the wrong choices already? What if my loved one is upset with my choice? What if I’m missing out because I didn’t make that other choice instead?
Abundance is our natural state, and there are an abundance of choices! Being without limitations can be scary, can feel “unsafe”, so it can be easier to put limitations on what we can have. (I can’t do that because I don’t have the money, time, resources, so and so wouldn’t like it, someone else says it’s not a good thing to do/have/be, the news or experts say there aren’t enough jobs/housing etc.)
There are a lot of voices in our head, so it can be challenging to discern what we really want.
The truth is, your true divine self came here with a very clear intention of what it wanted. This intention expresses in you being your best and brightest self, in service to all beings everywhere. Making choices from your heart means you want the best for everyone, starting with you, and trust how things unfold.
Then there’s the other voices, the ones that seek to understand for the sake of pontificating, or to be logical, scientific, be accepted, do it right, or be a responsible adult.
To add to the challenge (and opportunity!), in this transitional time on the planet, the new is being created in a new way. This is unknown territory we are creating together, outside of what we already know. Is it no wonder that so many are uncertain of their futures and what they want? From a denser perspective, the world is falling apart. From a larger perspective, the world is transforming, the old giving way to the new. Your soul knows the way, and your mind wants predictability. Creating a new world is anything but predictable.
Instead of wondering if your choice is the wrong one, or you just don’t want things to be worse than they are now, what if you asked, “What if this will be even better than I can imagine?”
How can you go in the direction of what you want, even if you’re not certain?
First, there is no wrong choice. Your soul knows the way. This means that no matter your choice, which includes not making one, you are offered an experience that will serve your growth and expansion, if you choose to view any challenges from that perspective.
Second, you can choose to take responsibility for all your experiences. When things happen, you choose to interpret them for better or for worse, or you choose to let someone else’s interpretation (friends, family, experts) to be more valid than your own.
Third, you can choose to trust yourself. You may not know exactly what you want consciously, but you DO know how you want to experience yourself and your life.
Get out that pen and paper and write down states of being you would like to have more of. This doesn’t mean fleeting emotions based on if you have an experience or not.
By getting to the core of how you want to experience your life, you also get to the core of your soul’s intention for being here. Every experience you have, the good, the bad and the ugly, is in the name of fulfilling that mission.
Here are a few states of being you might consider:
Oneness / Unity
These are ways of being present for yourself, for others, for the world. They influence your perception, and magnetize actions, experiences, people, inspiration, all you need to BE more of those energies.
Be aware that above listed states can be conditional. I feel joy when something happens, but then not after it’s over or taken away. I love you when/if… I say “thank you” because it is a nice thing to do but don’t actually experience gratitude.
These states of being I am talking about are unconditional, not contingent upon anything that occurs in this temporary illusion of the physical world.
After you make your list, look to see how you already have actions in your life that bring you into these states of being. Add those to each item on your list.
Joy – I experience joy when…. I garden, I walk in nature, I hear birds sing, I dance, I assist someone, I look at the clouds
Abundance – I experience abundance when… I notice my breath, I do artwork, in the Spring as flowers bloom, I look at the stars
Trust – I experience trust when… I put my hand on my heart and say, “In this moment, I trust myself. I trust my life.”, I notice my body able to walk and move, I share my truth with someone I feel safe with
Simply begin with “I experience ___ when…”, and write whatever comes to mind, without editing.
These are your resources to cultivate more of!
The more attention and inspired action you put on what you want more of, the more you will have. These states of being are also miracle makers, opening the space for all you could ever want.
Make this fun and easy by starting with one state of being, and just one action. This might be authentically thanking your water, infusing it with your loving gratitude, before you drink it. It might be a memory of something that brought you joy years ago that sparks you now to start doing again.
This will lead you to more, and more, and more…and then there you are, creating and living your vision (that was there all along!). One step at a time. TODAY.
It’s time to more purposefully choose the direction you want to go in, even if you don’t have any idea “how” that will look. Start with how you want to feel, experience and BE – in your body, in your mind, in your perception of life and the world. Nothing can take away your free will of how you experience and interpret your reality.
All is unfolding perfectly in your life, and All Is Truly Well.
I’ve always been a seeker, specifically of all that expand beyond, and bridge, a science-based view of reality. For those of us seekers, there comes a cross-roads while reading, watching and practicing other’s suggestions and insights. One path is easy and clear: all these people, with their knowledge and experience, clearly know how to have a better life and are doing it better than me. This comparing doesn’t just occur for those seeking the usual success, money or health. It’s also affects those of us seeking spiritual upliftment, ascension, awakening, purpose and to be our best and brightest selves. We all want to be our best, in all ways.
The Well-Worn Path
This is the path that is easy and automatic, is the one that insists, and finds proof, that I am broken, not enough, or that there is something wrong with me. If I only try harder, do it better, more, or be more disciplined, then I’ll get to that place that I hear and read so many others have arrived to. They have all the answers, all the tips and tricks, the formulas and the steps. They promise, if I will do what they say, I’ll be free of whatever is bothering me.
Most of these authors, teachers, authorities, or parents are like you and me: they want to assist others and be of service and support. Heck, read my very own blogs and I’ve got your steps and tricks right there for you. So, it’s not about them, it’s about me.
The thing is, the ego, meaning the doubt, the fear, the part of me that needs to be in control, knows every button to push to drop me into that doubt. It’s an easy albeit miserable path, especially since the collective consciousness, the average person, primarily agrees with a reality that is broken, wrong and needs to be fixed. We’ve been living in it for many centuries. Just turn on the news, it’s all right there.
It’s important to call this out, because it’s not going anywhere. That’s the catch. Those people you read, listen or talk to aren’t just suddenly in that state of being. They did what it took, and they keep doing it. If they tell you otherwise, they are lying. You see, the promised land isn’t one day someday. I’m not going to wake up one morning and say, “Gosh, I suddenly love myself completely, have no doubt about anything, no fear, no concerns, no lack, no upsets, no pain, no judgment!” Instead, it’s a moment by moment commitment and choice. This is actually a wonderful realization to be celebrated! You always have a choice!
The Second Path
Heaven, Eden, Nirvana is here and now. This path takes true love and compassion. It takes hard work and commitment. It also takes great surrender and trust. It’s a dance, to work hard yet surrender and stop trying to force an outcome or do it right. It takes noticing, an ever-refining awareness to notice the judgments, the reactions, the habits that feed doubt and lack, with a commitment to bringing loving compassion to those aspects of yourself, and others. Isn't it funny how challenging it is to be light-hearted, playful, joy-filled and free?! I mean, come on, you gotta laugh at whomever first figured out how get us to think "responsible grown-up" = don't be too happy, positive or uplifted.
This path takes the conscious choice of where to put your attention. Are you willing to put your attention on all the beauty, love, perfection, joy, radiance, vibrant well-being that is ever-flowing, where solutions naturally arise because you are in a space where problems don’t exist? Or do you focus on the problems, what’s wrong and bad about yourself and the world, and look to fix that? Outcomes can be forced, threats and punishment work, but at what cost?
When it comes down to it, the question becomes: do you want to have your Soul lead, Divine You, the one who takes its lead from Divine Intelligence (aka God), or the little you that feels separate, powerless, and not enough? You are free to choose either. You can live a good life by finding your identity through feeling productive in society, fitting in, being liked and approved of, or being successful in your career and finances. You can be of great contribution by focusing on fixing the problems of the world.
At this point in our evolution, fixing the problems of the world by finding what’s wrong and looking to fix them has gotten us as far as it has. We have come to a point that is beyond this, a place of new possibility, of a world of connection and unity, where All beings are loved and cared for, and miracles are the norm. There are more of us waking up to the truth of our own divinity than ever before. This is a state of being from which all solutions arise. We are already there, it just takes the willingness to see it (and kick to the curb all the logical proof the ego will come up with of how “love is the answer” is a ridiculous notion).
Instead of measuring yourself up against the appearance of others, remember that we are much more similar than different. It is our diversity that unifies us. In nature, every petal on every flower, every leaf on every tree, is unique. You are unique. You belong already, to this diversity of life. You deserve to thrive, because you were born. You don’t need to seek your worth by finding others that agree with you nor by comparing yourself to anyone else’s experience.
This alternate path asks that you trust yourself, that you trust that the universe is always on your side, and that you are and life is unfolding perfectly for your own growth and contribution to the world. It all points you toward Divine Truth, toward unconditional love, acceptance, compassion, freedom, joy, ease, peace, grace - starting within you.
Instead of putting your attention on other’s views, opinions and reactions, you can choose to get to know yourself. Then, others become resources of loving connection, spiritual family and support. This just takes a willingness to explore your unique ever-expanding expression of how YOU connect to the Divine, of how your intuition expresses, of your values, or what makes your heart sing and brings you joy in service to the world. It also takes a willingness to compassionately explore your own fears, doubts, resentments, limits of what you say you can or can’t have or do, and what you find wrong, those places you need to protect from more harm.
This is true freedom!
Love is the divine protector and the divine manifestor, and it is everywhere eternally flowing. It is so potent and radiant, that inserting that love and trust for just one moment, one breath, it can shift everything.
The dance afoot is that the more you reach toward uplifting states, the more those denser states will arise to be healed, loved, and released. There is nothing wrong with you or the world! The universe - from the farthest sun to Gaia herself, to your own DNA - is supporting and celebrating your empowerment. What is available now, more than ever, is to create the world you want. It’s a big responsibility to realize how easily you can insert love or hate, trust or fear, lack or abundance into your life and the world. But how awesome to know we are free to choose!
So fuck this one day some day I’ll be as good as that other person, or I’ll arrive at the “Me” that I see as my best self (that’s more comparing!). TODAY, choose to go in the direction of trusting you are exactly where and as you’re meant to be in this moment. Choose to trust your choices, your promptings, and if mistakes happen, embrace the lessons. For you are the Divine in form, loved beyond measure, and it is time for you to claim your right to BE!
I AM Love, Joy, and Abundance!
I AM Divine Intelligence, and all solutions are manifest now!
Divine Presence, fill my mind and body with your Radiance!
I Trust Myself!
by Julianne Kulosa
One of our greatest challenges can show up when our loved ones are suffering. In our deep care, love and desire to be of service, feelings of helplessness, sorrow, frustration, blame or even anger can arise. You might notice you want to fix them, lecture them, match their energetic state because you think it will make it better for them somehow, save them or just wrap your hands around their neck and say, “Wake up! Can’t you see how you can feel better?”
It’s often easier when a loved one is suffering due to an “external” circumstance: a car accident, a death of a loved one, illness, a job loss, unexpected financial burdens or some sort of stress caused in their external environment. Personally, I know that suffering is not caused from any situation or experience. Crappy things happen that don’t feel good, yes. However, the suffering I am speaking of is not caused from situations, rather from our misinterpretations of the nature of reality and ourselves. You’ve surely heard many stories of people thriving, loving, laughing, connecting and feeling gratitude and peace in the most painful of situations, such as in concentration camps. Also, it is also in times of crisis that people shine out most, connecting with their community and families to love and support each other.
Some things to consider when a loved one is suffering:
1. Your Loved One is a Master of Their Life.
No one knows better then your loved one how to traverse their own unique path. You can support them in remembering their own mastery. You can empower them by gifting them with their own path. They’ll take your offer of support, help or advice, or they won’t. It matters not, because it’s not about you, it’s about them. Your loving attention, your compassion, your belief in their ability to come through their suffering, is the most powerful support you can give them. If you reflect on your own life, you might notice that it was your greatest challenges that propelled you to rise up, grow, expand and learn. Don’t you want the same for them? It’s not easy to watch them suffer, especially when you can see the way out of suffering for them, yet this is the path they’ve chosen, and only they can walk it.
2. Forgive Them, They Know Not What They Do.
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. This means you are willing to acknowledge that someone is absolutely doing the best they know how, given their state of consciousness at any given time. If you were in their mindset, you too, would behave and experience reality exactly as they are. This forgiveness is not about their actions, but about authentically feeling compassion for them, even if you completely disagree with their choices.
3. Give Your Full Attention.
Put away all distractions and just be present with your loved one. This means not only external distractions like your phone, but internal as well. With each passing year of our busy information age, focused attention is becoming more of a commodity. Listen more. Talk less. Your loved one may or may not want to feel better in the moment. Maybe they just want to vent and complain, and that outlet for their thoughts and feelings might be exactly what they need in the moment. Did they actually ask you for your advice or opinion? Notice your own thoughts while listening: are you analyzing, thinking how to fix their situation or judging them? Take a breath, drop into your heart, and simply give them your full loving attention. Often what someone needs when they’re in a great challenge or crisis is to be comforted and loved.
4. Take Care of Yourself.
Sometimes your own biggest stressor can be in response to a loved one in pain. While taking care of yourself isn’t “number one” in this list, it may well be your most important move when it comes to supporting your loved one. Take time to notice your own response to the suffering of others. This could be a loved one, or something occurring locally or globally. Be honest with your own reactions, thoughts and feelings. Bring compassion and forgiveness to yourself as the witness of others suffering. When you feel stressed, you can only contribute so much to your loved ones. Do whatever you need to shine brightly. Your calm, peaceful and loving energy will be felt by others without you needing to do or say anything. Your heart-centered care gives you a clearer ability to use intelligent concern rather than feel reactive or stressed.
5. Trust Yourself.
In trying to assist a loved one, it can be challenging to know what your best move is that will support them. Should you walk away, be positive and optimistic, agree with them, disagree with them, be gentle or a little rougher, help them, or have them do it on their own? There’s no right answer, for each person needs support in different ways at different times. Not trusting your own choices certainly won’t support them. Know that you are a loving, caring, powerful person and you, too, are doing the best that you can. That is more than enough!
Trusting yourself also means standing in your own truth. Your loved one doesn’t have to agree with you, and you can be radically authentic in your own truth while being loving and compassionate at the same time. You don’t need to compromise your beliefs in order to help others. If you know in you bones and heart that they can heal their bodies, find the perfect job or home, thrive and have their dreams come true, you can stay solid in your knowing despite their disagreement or proof that says otherwise. You don’t need to argue your point or necessarily even say it aloud, but you also don’t need to give it up. Holding your authentic vision is transformative and of great contribution.
6. Envision Their Success.
There are many ways to energetically support a loved one, such as prayer, sending blessings, or using visualization techniques. Remember that they have their own free will, and your support is not forced upon them, taken only if their souls truly want it.
In a relaxed and calm state, imagine that your loved one has come through the other side of their challenge. Use your senses, sight, sound, feeling, to envision in the present moment their success and happiness. Notice, in the present moment, how they are feeling, talking and acting from this accomplishment. Notice how you feel witnessing their triumph and things working out for them. In alignment with their free will and the highest good of all, let that now go out into the universe to manifest, maybe even better than you could imagine on your own.
If you’re the type of person (and most of us are!) who wants to fix other people’s problems, this is a great way to use that desire without disempowering your loved one or feeling upset if they don’t take your advice. We really are all connected, and your powerful ability to create can be used to shift the experience of others if this is truly what their own soul desires.
Know that your love is the greatest support you can give to your loved ones. Your unwavering love, the true greeting of Namaste, that love that sees the beauty and divine perfection of your beloved in all their moods, thoughts and reactions, contributes and transforms their suffering, whether you see evidence of that in the moment or not.
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Ascension Symptoms: Anxiety
by Julianne Kulosa
Anxiety is a common symptom along the ascension path. It’s particularly easy to find “real world” reasons for feeling anxious, both personally and globally. The first step to easing anxiety, is to become aware of those thoughts that create the feeling. Fears, insecurities and doubts that may be habitual or may be focused toward a particular situation (your finances, relationships, health or state of the world problems) do need to come to light and be seen for what they are: an interpretation or story about yourself and the world. The ego is sly: it can always find proof of something if it is looking for it. At the same time, depending on your state of consciousness at any given time, the world, both inner and outer, shift. One moment you feel like you can’t be with that feeling of anxiety inside, your mind reeling, and after a meditation, exercise, being out in nature, or connecting with a loved one, you feel at ease.
Things To Consider When You Feel Anxiety
1. Everything is Energy
The solar flashes and energy that are supporting the transition into New Earth are becoming stronger and more consistent. Everyone is feeling it, and how they interpret that energy is up to them. Furthermore, as your body shifts to hold more light, it can be a pretty intense ride. It’s natural to feel that energy and want to put a reason to it, to find the problem and solution. It’s also easy to interpret more intense energies, ones that might have you feel buzzy or jittery inside, as nervousness or anxiety. Even excitement can be easily be interpreted as anxiety instead of passion or enthusiasm.
It can be a relief just to remind yourself, “It’s just energy.”
Next, find a way to ground that energy. Stand barefoot on the grass, hug a tree, take a walk in nature, garden, clean, or exercise in any way you enjoy.
I’m reminded of a story from Jack Kornfield. During lunch at a week-long silent meditation retreat, a participant went, well, crazy. He began talking and yelling, jumping on the tables and just being pretty nuts. Jack realized what was happening: this participant was having a lot of energy rise up inside, also known as “kundalini”. He immediately put the man on a different course of rigorous exercise and shifted his diet to denser foods such as meat. This assisted the man in grounding the energy that was rising up in his body a bit more quickly than he could handle.
Instead of pushing through that anxiety or nervous energy, your body might also be asking for rest and sleep. A big part of the ascension process occurs while you are sleeping, giving you time to integrate your growth and increased light. Let yourself rest!
Give yourself space to to play, laugh, dance, sing, make love and have hobbies you enjoy! Or take that action you are being called to do even if you’re feeling anxious, doubtful or insecure about it.
2. You Are a Part of Collective Consciousness
It’s helpful to remind yourself that it’s not just you. Spiritual growth opens your intuitive awareness, that ability to feel outside your own shell. We’ve been trained that we are separate, and as those walls begin to crumble, our innate connection to people and the Earth is experienced more strongly.
It’s important to acknowledge your ability to feel others. We’ve been doing it already, but have built a wall that has given that illusion of separateness. Suddenly being able to more greatly intuit the pulse of the collective, the feelings or thoughts of your loved ones, can be confusing or overwhelming.
It’s easy to think “it’s just you”, as your loved ones may be quite unaware of what they are thinking or feeling.
Acknowledge your growing ability to connect with others, plants, animals and Gaia. You are opening the to the compassion, care and unconditional love inside of you. We all affect each other, quite measurably actually, such as seen in entrainment experiments.
Setting boundaries will assist you in differentiating “you” from others. Spending time alone can give you space to get to know you and you. As you do practices that expand your heart and bring in more light and have you feel centered, you strengthen your ability to know the difference between “your energy” and others. Yes, we are all connected, yet it is in embracing our uniqueness that unity can occur. New Earth isn’t about some kind of intense “group mind” where we are all floating around as One without anything to interact with.
It can be very helpful to set your intention and focus for your day, especially if you are in a service or healing position. If you walk into work without intention, you are open to the twists and turns that the energy of any person coming your way puts out. On the other hand, if you set your energy in the morning with that intention, such as to be of loving service or to be calm and at ease, this keeps you centered, without need to give away your energy or take on the energy of others.
3. Bouncing Back and Forth from 3D to 5D Perspectives
As you try to be a good and right person, you might be finding that what you were taught about reality just isn’t matching to what you’re sensing inside. Yet, you still need and want to function in the traditional world, drive your car, interact with those who aren’t interested in “spiritual awakening”, or pay the bills. Part of you thinks you should be focusing on getting a traditional education or career, make good money, be of service in a way that puts others first and you last, and act a certain way so that others expectations of you are met and so that they feel good when they’re around you. At the same time, you are committed to your spiritual awakening and might be having profound and strange heart-opening and dimensional shifting experiences. You might be drawn to be more authentic, to take care of yourself inside first so that you can shine out your light to the world in service, set boundaries, or take an unconventional heart-inspired path that has no known outcome like success in career or finances.
When challenges around money, health or relationships arise, important decisions need to be made, it’s easy to wonder if the traditional perspective is the correct one to take. You read articles and ask for advice, often solidifying the old reality you are waking up from. This doesn’t have to be an either/or choice. The collective is still primarily in this old reality, and therefore grounded choices do need to be made. Do you need to go to the doctor or is this just an ascension symptom? It’s okay to take both perspectives – if you’re called to go to the doctor, go! You might know you’re done with your current job and are being called to something new, but it’s okay to keep going to that job to be able to pay your bills right now.
Ease up on your process and awakening – it can be a little rocky, up and down, and life paces your process in a way that you can best handle holding more light. Open to the possibility that you are multi-dimensional. This means that you have the ability to shift your consciousness in any moment. One moment you could be communing with nature and talking with the trees, and the next moment be very grounded as you traverse a rocky trail carefully. One moment you are in absolute presence of the bliss of the Now and the next, you need to take care of a time-sensitive task like going to an appointment.
It’s okay to feel tossed around a bit. You’re learning about centering into and opening to your authentic nature! Return to breathing into your heart and know that as your untapped potential is awakening, you’re learning how to navigate it. Your process is about integration. Sometimes it will be sudden changes, endings, shifts, forgetfulness, fogginess and lack of focus or sharp memory recall. Trust that when you really need that focus or memory, like to do your job, it will be there. Have faith that life and the universe, have your back and are supporting you fully, even if it doesn’t look or feel the way you think it should.
4. Opening to New You
Things are changing, inside you and globally, and they’re changing fast. We naturally seek stability and comfort. We are trained to set goals into a future we are creating. During your awakening, you are being asked to let go of what you thought was “you”, and opening to a greater Truth of who you are. Life has a way of assisting you if you resist, as external shifts (in work, home, relationships, health) may force a new perspective for you.
A lot of anxiety can come with the change in your consciousness occurring that is actually such a higher Love Light vibration and a deeper truth about reality. Letting go of who your think you are and your understanding of the world, especially as much of the collective, especially family or friends, still operate in the old density of 3D, can cause a lot of turmoil inside. Do you know what’s true, right or real anymore?
You may be finding yourself at a loss, with old interests falling away yet nothing new showing up. You’re supposed to be active and busy, aren’t you? That active busy feel at odds with an unknown next step could definitely have you feel anxious.
With your new perspective, you might wonder if your loved ones will come with you. If you change, will they still want to hang around with you? The truth is, we never know how long relationships will last or change over time, and this is no different.
Be open, just willing, to acknowledge and experience death. It is part of the great cycle of change, and one most of us don’t want to confront. It’s uncomfortable and the great unknown. Be compassionate about your natural inclination to want to hold onto those things and relationships that you love, and for your desire for stability and things to “get back to normal”. Relax into the knowing that with death always comes the promise of new life.
Study the stages of butterfly, as the caterpillar spends its time wrapped in the darkness of the cocoon.
5. Trauma, Programming and Emotions Bubbling Up
There are few people that get enthusiastic about the idea of their shit coming up. I’m certainly still practicing embracing it. “Woo hoo! There’s another fear, victimization, attachment, insecurity, expectation, belief, automatic reaction, or unresolved experience I get to feel and look at! Ooh, and isn’t it awesome to see how I treat others or myself when I get triggered!” Yeah, a tough one to look forward to, but there it is, asking for your loving attention. It’s been hidden away in the darkness, wanting to return to the One with your loving awareness, your gratitude for its lessons, and your compassion.
This is where setting time aside can really assist you. Once you are going about your day, interacting with others, it can be challenging to give the kind of attention and space that these feelings and memories are asking for. Furthermore, often when things bubble up, you’re in a space where you forgot that what you’re feeling or thinking may not actually be true. A dark cloud can come over you, and as you try to unravel those reactions or feelings, it only serves to solidify them and increase your anxiety. This might be a time to take a break, to put your attention on raising your vibration through any means possible, such as connecting with a friend, watching silly cat videos, taking a walk in nature, getting a massage, drinking more water, completing a needed task like housecleaning or paying bills, doing volunteer work or assisting a friend – anything that feels calming, brings you peace of mind, has you feel good about yourself and life. Yes, it could look like deep breaths or your “spiritual practices”, but sometimes it just means shifting your attention to the good in life and the service that you are to the world, which is plentiful.
By setting aside time to “go there,” you are practicing being able to be aware and loving throughout your day. Setting time aside means starting by doing your practice you are most drawn to right now. Maybe it’s noticing the breath, doing mantras, visualizing, prayer, connecting to your heart, bringing in light and merging with Source and Gaia, calling on divine support, doing yoga, or a myriad of other practices and methods available. You’ve now set the space to be able to address those things that are coming up to be seen and released, not just for yourself but also for the collective. You can now take that loving perspective, hold the space for those things to come up, and see more clearly. Personally, I like to journal. You might like to share with a friend, share with your guides or angels, or use some kind of healing technique on your own or through a practitioner. All you need for your journey is in you and around you, and as you give space to “go there”, the support you need will be right in front of you in that moment.
6. Feeling the Acceleration of the Shift Occurring
It’s just the Shift speeding up, and the Universe is asking you to slow down and center. It’s just energy, and you have choice in how you interpret what it means.
Notice that sped up energy, the thoughts that say you should be doing more, that say you have no time. Notice the habit of pushing through when your call is actually to rest or sleep.
Or, you may want to allow yourself to have this be a challenge you can live up to! The opportunities when the energy and changes are accelerated is an time you can lift up quickly. You can rise to the challenge while you keep your practices in place that keep you centered, grounded and trusting your intuitive guidance.
You have a time-shifting ability you may not be aware of. The ancient Egyptians had a temple devoted to the study of time, from the perspective of how man moves through time. Things can go slower or faster depending on your state of consciousness. You know the “in the zone” feeling when things are flowing and you’re doing what you love – that can make time fly like when you’re doing some artwork. Or when you really want something, enthusiastically but calmly and without attachment – space opens up, time opens up, traffic lights are all green. When you’re feeling anxious, that can make things move quickly yet have things take longer than necessary. I’ve learned that too many times!
Modern science has added another layer to time called “vertical time”. In any given moment, all possibilities exist. Tap into your ability to open to the present moment of vertical time, as compared to the stress and anxiety of living only in horizontal time, always rushing impatiently toward a future or looking back toward what has past. Use your inner natural ability to do so by using your intention, focus in when you slow down into each moment, and choose the possibility of ease, peace, flow and trust in the universe and Divine Plan.
7. Information Overload
This can be both internal and external. As waves of energy and higher frequency come in, you might have insights, guidance, creative ideas and new perspectives appear one after the other. It might feel like there’s so much to remember and do. Creativity is the nature of the universe, and one of the ways to know how creative you actually are is to see all those “unfinished” projects you have – a sign of all those creative ideas!
You are co-creating this New Earth with others. If you have an idea, know that someone else does to. You don’t have to be the one to implement it. Maybe you just plant the seed, or support others in their projects energetically or physically.
Also, know that you don’t need to do everything at once. You can write down your insights, and then just breathe into the moment and do what’s next to be done in this moment, which might be integration through rest and sleep, making dinner, meditating, connecting with others, or being of service out in the world. One step at a time, with cultivating feeling peaceful and centered a priority.
Externally, there is also so much information available more than ever before. You may want to deliberately turn off your phone, stop reading or watching the news, or just take a break from all electronics all together. Getting out into nature is one of the greatest ways to relax into the present moment.
If you have the thought to do something such as stretch, take a walk, meditate, or make that phone call, and think, “I don’t have time!” this might actually be exactly the time to do so.
8. Opening to All Viewpoints and The Void
As your heart opens more and more, you’ll find a desire to respect and honor all viewpoints. It's not that you take them on as your own, but you allow others to have their unique perspectives. Being so open to the new, to change, to different possibilities, might have you feeling like – what the heck do I know anyway? When the dependability of who you thought you were and what you thought reality was starts to break apart, you might wonder what you even have to offer to the world. Furthermore, it can be challenging when you need to make an important decision yet see the validity of different viewpoints.
When your knowledge isn’t fact but merely one possibility, when you know there are so many ways to look at any situation, it can really trigger the insecurity of how you fit in and belong. Someone asks for you advice, and what comes to mind are dozens of ways you could answer their question. There’s not just one correct answer anymore, so what “expertise” do you have to offer anyone? Here’s the cool thing: knowledge really is power, just in a different sense. Being open to so many viewpoints allows you to trust that your mind has taken them all into account and you can now more easily drop into the intuitive, tapped in, higher vibrational intelligence of your heart. Being open might feel empty, yet it is in that emptiness where all pure potential exists.
Being in the present moment in the space of pure love can also feel like a nothingness, an emptiness. It is a sublime space of pure potential, yet with that drive to understand what you’re supposed to be doing, to be productive and responsible, it can be a very uncomfortable space to feel. This is zero point, and just know that each time you experience the present moment fully, you are opening to all possibilities and learning about the true nature of reality and your divine human potential to co-create the world you wish to live in.
Opening to new viewpoints is a wonderful thing! You are embracing diversity and opening your compassionate heart.
In your heart is also your ability to take that mental knowledge, all those perspectives into account, and then use the intelligence of your heart to choose your next step, big or small. You can place your hands on your heart and breathe into your heart, breathing in ease, centering back into the wisdom and intelligence of your heart. This allows better coherence between your heart and your brain, giving you clearer love-based directives.
When you're opening to all viewpoints, let it empower you to most importantly honor your own, to live by your values and trust your choices.
9. Higher Guidance Delivered Through the Ego
I love this one, thanks to Matt Khan. Your soul, your higher self, your guides and angels, all connected to the guidance of Source, are always guiding you toward your highest good, in returning to love, joy and peace.
Let’s say your higher self is supporting you by nudging you to care for your body more. It whispers incessantly, “Eat more vegetables,” or “go for a walk”. What you hear instead it, “Your diet is terrible and you need to lose weight. You have no willpower.” or “You’re so lazy. You really need to get more exercise, loser.”
So each time you have the thought about something that is actually loving guidance to assist you, it only stresses you out and has that anxiety come up that says, “You should be doing more, better, different…” This is because the message from higher guidance is actually being delivered from your ego. Your ego can be kind of harsh and controlling, speaking in rough and bossy tones that just don’t feel good. You might be used to that kind of rough communication, since your parents used it on you as a child to get you into action. As an adult, surely you don’t appreciate being spoken to that way anymore, from a boss, spouse or otherwise.
While your ego really does have your best interest at heart, its controlling nature isn’t serving to motivate you on your spiritual path so much. You can thank your ego, and ask it to be gentler in its communication. When you get that guidance to do something and notice you feel anxious, you can wonder, “If this were a communication from someone who loved me unconditionally just as I am, wasn’t trying to fix me, punish me, or make me feel bad or wrong, what would that communication be?”
You always have choice in how you interpret your feelings and experiences. Just know that you are truly expanding and a part of the shift occurring, and the process you are going through is natural and not always easy. Take care of yourself along your journey. When you feel that anxiety, know it will pass. It’s time to be brave, to take new actions that may seem scary, but do them anyway, for the world needs and is ready for New You!
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When Will My Life Get Better?
by Julianne Kulosa
Julianne is a Spiritual Intuitive and Guide, empowering others to live a life of miracles and magic through trusting the power of love.
Many of my clients share their challenges, burdens and suffering with me, be it external or internal, from the experiences life throws at them, the internal chattering mind, physical pain, or overwhelming emotions.
Despite the situation, the question is often the same: “When will this end?!!” This might also lead to the question, “It will end right? Things will get better?”
While all our challenges are unique, the nature of them is completely different than in the past. We have an opening now, a new reality to step into. In this reality, anything that we do for ourselves, we do for the entire collective on the planet, not just now, but throughout all timelines, past, present and future. How amazing is that? Can you even wrap your mind around it?
Taking a traditional perspective on our pain, suffering and challenges works as well as it does. We think, “One day, when I’ve overcome or gotten rid of this problem, then I’ll be happy.” In this day and age, the problems of the world require solutions outside of our traditional thinking.
I know you want reassurance that it will get better, and soon. I know it not only can, but will. However, it is you and you alone that has the choice and power to have the experience that it will, and can, get better.
Yes, sure, if you’re reading this you’re looking for me to give you the answer. My answer is that YOU have the answer, the power, the strength, the courage, trust, love, breath, the soul and spirit, to have anything that you want. It is your destiny, like it or not!
Why wouldn’t you like it? Because your “get better” lies in the present moment of your experience. It’s not one day – some day, when my finances are handled, I have the perfect relationship, vibrant health, ideal weight, unending positive thoughts, everlasting joy, unbridled passion, cool spiritual experiences, superpower intuition, complete freedom to be, clarity of life purpose, or “add your own here.”
You were born to thrive, and born to grow, expand and learn from any experience you are having. Can you imagine a world crumbling around you, pain and suffering all around you, death, destruction, even fire and brimstone, and there you stand, in the center of it all, in peace, in trust, with an open heart and truly knowing all is well?
It’s time to let go of, or at least soften our grip, on the reins of what we think reality is supposed to be, feel and look like. Nothing, and I mean nothing, is the boss of you. YOU are the master of your reality. You hold the magic wand and elixir of everlasting life. It’s YOU!
How do you get to the space of remembering that? By absolutely being committed to remembering and living the truth of who you are. You are not your circumstances, your pain, or your suffering. They call you to remember, just as a nightmare screams at you to get your attention so it can share an important message.
If your circumstances don’t equate to your quality of life, what does?
It is your consciousness, your state of being, that determines the quality of your life. It’s each choice in action that is aligned with your soul’s calling. Oh, don’t worry, you know your soul’s calling. It calls you to love, enjoy, bless, and appreciate.
The other morning, I noticed I felt anxious upon waking. I did my simple practices, such as breathing in peace and breathing out blessings of peace for all. It took just a minute, and there I was, in peace at that moment.
Know that things really are intensifying. It’s not just you. Whatever is personally happening for you, you can choose to breathe and know that there is a rapidly increasing intensity of the shift happening. Fighting against it, waiting for the challenge to be over, will not speed up your personal process.
Changing the way you view yourself and your life is what is called for in this moment. This is the moment you’ve been waiting for. It calls to you again and again to choose a new way of being that transforms any circumstance in your life. That way of being is one of connection, love, abundance, peace and joy.
In any moment, you can choose to say, “I am committed to this shift happening inside and around me. I choose to see myself and my life as a gift, as a game, as a opportunity to cultivate a new way of being.”
I know, I know, you might be thinking, “How could you possibly see your pain, frustration, financial challenges, illness, anxiety, loss, confusion, or upset in your relationships as a gift?”
There are some gifts that we want, and some gifts that we need. Anything that is occurring in this moment is a gift.
How can you access the gift in your situation? By ACCEPTING it.
Say, “Yes, thank you for this gift!” It doesn’t mean that you have to like it, or that you’re not disappointed, or that you wouldn’t prefer to have a gift you’ve been really wanting.
It does mean that you say, “I accept this gift. I know that this is what serves me most right now, as crazy as I think that may be. I trust that this gift is one that serves my absolute highest good and growth, and is more powerful than I could ever imagine.”
Once the gift is accepted, it can unfold its magic and miracles. It will call you to take actions that are for your highest good and well being, and the highest good of all people everywhere. The best gifts don’t always come in pretty packages.
It is your conscious choosing to see all of your experiences as a gift, with thankfulness and gratitude, with trust, that can have you stand at the center of absolute chaos and destruction and feel centered and peaceful.
It’s ok that you find yourself wanting things to be different, to be better. Please take heart that you have the power to do this right now, despite any circumstance.
Accepting that this moment is your greatest gift, without trying to get rid of, fix or change it, allows movement in your life. Change occurs most easily when we surrender to what is occurring right now, when we choose to believe that right now is exactly where we are supposed to, how we’re supposed to be, and are divinely destined to be. It allows us to breathe and lighten up!
May you be blessed with the joy, laughter, peace, relief and love that is accessible to you at any moment.
by Julianne Kulosa
Julianne is a Spiritual Intuitive and Guide, empowering others to live a life of miracles and magic through trusting the power of love.
Time and again I’ve heard it said that humans have free will. No one and nothing can interfere with our free will. That doesn’t mean they won’t try of course! Ok, I’m sure you can think of scenarios where someone wouldn’t seem to have free will. I know I can. I’m not here to convince you otherwise, but consider that maybe there’s more to that story than what we know about reality from a 3rd dimensional perspective.
No matter what seems to be interfering with your free will, your power lies within you, not your outer circumstance.
Free will simply means that we always have a choice. The traditional definition of free will focuses on our ability to make choices about our actions, without outside influences like fate or force. It also often comes with judgment attached, such as if your actions are responsible, if you will be acknowledged positively by others, or if your choices might result in guilt or shame. It is time to take a different perspective regarding free will.
The power of free will resides not so much in your outer actions, but in your choices about how you view others, yourself, your circumstances and reality itself. It is your conscious dedication and commitment to those choices that fuel and propel the powerful action steps that transform your life.
We make millions of choices in our lifetime, and each choice leads to a new choice. We start our mornings by choosing to open our eyes into a conscious state, and the day is then filled with more choices. Many are so “automatic” or habitual that they don’t seem like choices anymore.
We are also extremely skilled at making choices and then blaming some person or circumstance for that choice. If something is coming to mind right now in which you think you have no choice in the matter, this might be something to choose to look at in a different way.
The way we choose to look at and interpret our reality is the most powerful aspect of our superpower of free will. There is no perspective, opinion or “fact” about reality that you do not have free will in. Yes, there is a collective consciousness comprised on the planet that you are effected by. Yet, even this, once you are aware of it, you have choice about. Whatever you consider as fact, there is at least one other person on the planet who does not. Sure, you could “prove them wrong” within your understanding of reality. Does that actually make you right? How many people need to agree with you in order for you to know you are right? If you watch or read mainstream mass media, does that mean they are reporting the truth? Is it true because the doctor says so, or the research (sponsored by, say, a pharmaceutical company) says so?
It’s not that you need to disregard important outside information, it is that it is time to step into your own power. This power stems from your authentic divine nature, filled with love, joy, clarity and peace.
How do you access your power? With your superpowers of course, one being free will. This is expressed through your power to choose.
No one can take this away from you. If you think someone is more powerful than you, more knowledgeable, more insightful, or you’ll lose their love or respect if you tap into your own power, then that is still your choice. If you think you are limited because of all your past experiences and what you’ve been taught to believe, making you unable to change your mind or habits, that is also your choice. You get to choose if you’re wrong or you’re right. Just remember that free will includes the choice to judge yourself and your experiences.
CHOOSE & COMMIT
Once you make a choice, the universe shifts in the direction of that choice. Choice opens you to action, meaning action steps naturally arise out of the choices you make. Creating an action plan in itself will not give you the energy that is created from making a choice and committing to it. You don’t need to worry about the how. When you choose and commit to that choice, the actions naturally become clear to you. Synchronicity will occur such that you are in the right place at the right time, and everything you need will show up for you.
Our strongest choices stem from a deep commitment to our values. An example is committing to vibrant health. Once you commit, not from fear of illness or being over weight, but from dedication to vibrant health, a friend tells you about a great documentary to watch about health and diet. It inspires you to eat more plant-based whole foods out of your commitment to vibrant health for yourself, others and the planet. You then notice a sign in a window that announces a farmer’s market near you where you can get organic locally grown produce. Continually returning to your commitment to your values, choosing them as most important to you, makes life a whole lot easier, filled with flow and grace.
Making a choice opens up anything that goes in the direction of that choice. You don’t need to search for anything, because once your choice is made, you will naturally go in the direction of that choice because of your commitment to that choice.
This is why it’s so important to be honest with yourself. If you have chosen to be healthy and find yourself wanting that beloved junk food, it is an opportunity to be honest about what you are committed to right now. This takes a willingness to feel your feelings and notice your thoughts with gentleness and compassionate understanding. You might find you also have a commitment to feeling good, and when you are stressed, habitually eat a certain food for relief. It is wonderful that you are committed to feeling good! Ask yourself, “If I deeply value and am committed to vibrant health, what is the healthiest way for me to feel good right now?”
If free will is our superpower, then the choices we make are never wrong. The universe supports our free will, without judgment. We really are all doing the best that we can. Rather than focusing on making yourself wrong for “bad” choices or habits that do not serve you or others in a way you’d like them to, your power lies in continually re-committing to your new choice, moment by moment.
Most of us in a long-term relationship know that once the commitment is made, the choice to be with that partner indefinitely, there are times that we question that choice. The questioning of our choices is not a problem. It is an opportunity to deepen into our commitment, to use our free will to say more powerfully than before, “Yes! I want this! I choose this! Count me in!” In relationships, it’s very beneficial to look at your commitment to the other person. Are you committed to hiding out, seeing what is wrong with the other person, worrying about their reaction, losing them or upsetting them? Or are you committed to connecting with them deeply and authentically, enjoying their company, and sharing your life together in a way that brings out the best in both of you? Bringing out the best includes bringing up the “worst” to been seen and transformed by your loving presence.
Free will is more powerful than our doubts and fears. These are the only things that get in the way, and yes, they will arise time and again. They do not need to stop you. Use your free will to choose to trust. I trust myself! I trust my choices!
YOU get to say if your life is wonderful or horrible. YOU get to say if you can have something you want or if you can’t. All your power lies in your own hands.
Consider that if you really stepped into knowing that your choices create worlds, then anything you truly choose to KNOW and DECLARE you can have is destined to be yours, despite any outer proof that says otherwise.
You must be willing to admit what you have already chosen to be true about yourself and reality. Are you committed to values like judgment, competition, lack and doubt? These might have been useful for your survival, but do you want to let your actions, your reason for living, be based on these values? These are your only limitations, and ones that can truly be laid to rest at this time on the planet, if you choose. With that self-honesty, you can then simply make a new choice, again and again.
Choose to know that you are powerful. Choose to know you are exactly how and where you are supposed to be. Choose clarity. Choose gratitude. Choose to declare that you are joyful. You are creative. You are abundant. You are blessed. You are loved! Now these are values that you can really have fun with, a life of joy, magic and miracles!
What are your deepest and most authentic values? By putting these values to the forefront of your consciousness, your choices and action steps that are in alignment with those values will naturally become apparent and energized.
When you notice you feel you have no choice in something, choose to say, “I have choice in this situation. I have chosen this situation to come up for my highest and greatest good and growth.” Then declare and choose what you are wanting right now. The “how” will show up for you, when you choose to trust yourself and the universe. You will know which actions to take because they will feel good. They will bring a sense of trust, peace or joy. Even if the action is difficult, like leaving a person or situation, that action step will be calmly apparent and just “feel right.” You do not need to worry about what you need to change. You simply need to choose and declare, and change will naturally occur.
Turning Doubt Into Trust
by Julianne Kulosa
Julianne is a Spiritual Intuitive and WayShower, guiding the way to living a life of miracles and magic through trusting the power of love.
Doubt is a powerful emotion that comes with a list of reasons why we are in a wrong situation. Doubt about the self comes in many forms, such as our beauty, intelligence or choices. Doubt about the world can show up in our finances, relationships, or feeling of safety in our environment.
Our heads spin stories about how we are not good enough, can't have what we want, aren’t making the right choices, or aren’t where we are supposed to be. When we doubt, we feel helpless in our ability to control our thoughts, feelings, situation and experience. Doubt can stop us from moving forward with our dreams and enjoying our lives now.
The freedom, joy, relief, love and trust we are craving does not lie outside of doubt. The way out is the way through.
Rather than trying to solve the problems that doubt seems to create, the first place to start is by changing our minds about what doubt actually is. We can choose to tell a different story about doubt, even if there is no evidence that our new story is “true” or “factual.” Remember that you can gather evidence to prove that your doubts are real. That is just one viewpoint of many you can choose to live in.
Instead of making yet another enemy in life, the “doubt monster,” we can begin by greeting our doubt as we would a friend, a wise teacher, and an ally.
Doubt screams at us to listen, and if we resist, it only screams louder.
We can hold up the white flag and say, “Ok, ok! I surrender! What are your terms?”
You might think that the way through doubt is to take action despite your doubts and concerns. While this is a part of moving through doubt, using action alone it is like putting a small Band Aid over a deep cut that needs much more attention. Ignoring the wound will not make it go away.
If you take a step towards your doubt by acknowledging it and asking what it wants, you’ll find that the peacefulness that trust brings is available within your doubt.
Acknowledging your doubts opens up freedom to make a different choice. We often drown in our doubts or use any means necessary to avoid, escape or find relief from them. What is being called for is to understand that these doubts are based in the past, when you experienced separation from your true authentic self and the divine. They are a gift because they show you where your attention is and that you have forgotten your authentic nature, which is connected to and in harmony with all.
By the nature of who you truly are, your choices and challenges are always a part of your divine path. This includes the experiences that had you feel unsafe, alone and uncertain. When you choose to trust your path, you open to the abundance, peacefulness, support and love that reside within you and around you.
When you doubt, you have an opportunity to choose trust. This means you must first be honest about your doubts, thanking them for trying to protect you, and then choose to focus on trusting yourself, the universe and your unique path of evolution and growth.
This will begin to give you clarity as to whether your doubt is based on fears or your intuition. The difference between the two lies in your experience of doubt. Know that intuitive guidance that directs you, for example, to stay away from a dangerous situation, is not doubt but rather a type of inner knowing. Your intuition may suddenly alert you to an immediate action to take, but it not bogged down by your busy mind, fears, anxiety, worry or stress.
Anytime you notice a doubt, you can breathe, place your hand on your heart, and say, “I trust myself. Thank you for my life!”
Be gentle on yourself and your doubts. Each time you allow yourself to actually notice and feel your doubts, you are receiving the gift of an opening to bring more loving attention to yourself and return to trust.
A MESSAGE FROM THE ANGELS & ARCHANGEL JOPHIEL
Trust comes from a place of allowing. Many of you do not feel comfortable with the word surrender, so we will use allowing to explain the energy of trust. Allowing is a statement to the universe, to God and the angels, that you are willing to be supported, open to the possibility that you are not alone, not in danger, and never held in a negative view by a vengeful God or universe. You are here to thrive, not survive. You have survived for so long, many of you repeating lifetimes on this Earth in which your survival was your primary task. Or so it seemed.
Archangel Jophiel steps in to speak:
You are meant to feel the joy of the angelic realm, the beauty of your abundance of experiences. Look at the earth around you, at nature. I am here to assist you in seeing the abundance and joy that surrounds you. It is always surrounding you. Oh, the beauty of the world opens your heart! Can you feel it? Nature calls you to allow yourself to open to its beauty, its harmony and its abundance.
Call on me, Archangel Jophiel, to assist you when you feel doubt. I am here to protect you, to envelop you with the pure essence of trust. All your desires live within you, and if you were not capable of having them manifest, you would not wish for them. This is the illusion of time. Just because you do not have things as you see they could be does not mean you have done something wrong. It means that you see your future, and it is certain. How can this be? You, beloved, are here to create more love and beauty than has ever been known. You were born to do this. You can have this now by enjoying the beauty around you, infusing it with the love in your heart, with the attention of your sweet gratitude and appreciation.
Do you see? Open your eyes to the beauty around you and you will have more! This is surrender. You surrender to trusting that all you need is here now, and all you seem to not have is simply not time for yet. Your doubt of the present is really just seedlings beneath the earth promising beautiful flowers in Spring. Are you willing to trust? Are you willing to infuse the flowers in bloom now with your loving appreciation?
You are loved and cared for unconditionally. Allow yourself to feel your connection to the divine, even just to connect to the smell of a flower, the smile of a stranger, or the warmth of the sun. Trust and know that you are completely enveloped by the light of the divine at all times, even in your darkest hour and doubts. Open to receiving all the love, support and guidance by trusting yourself and your divine unfolding. You are so loved!
6 Keys to Trusting Your Heart
by Julianne Kulosa
Julianne is a Spiritual Intuitive and WayShower, guiding the way to living a life of miracles and magic through trusting the power of love.
Taking action on the desires and guidance of your heart can be scary and confusing. This kind of guidance resides outside the norm of time and space, where we plan, research and use our logic and intellect to make responsible decisions. When we follow our hearts, there is no apparent safety net, no rules or time-tested measurable results we can count on.
Our hearts call us to make choices that bring us closer to our true divine nature.
We didn’t grow up being taught about our true divine nature. In fact, as we grow up, we become more and more separated from our natural ability to live in the moment and experience life through the eyes of our divine selves and the higher dimensions.
We are taught that we cannot trust our hearts, for it is our hearts that have led us astray in aspects of our lives like relationships and finances. Someone says they are following their heart, and we see how they are about to crash and burn. The experiences you have witnessed, in others and yourself, where following your heart led to pain, is a misinterpretation both of the heart and of pain.
Taking action from a heart desperate for love, for fulfillment, for joy and connection, actually blocks your heart’s natural ability to inform your mind of the next step to take. The desperation or frustration you feel is informing you that you are not actually in your heart in that moment. Desperation and yearning are forms of lack, of not enough. We want something we think we cannot have right now. Your heart lacks nothing, filled with a depth of love that connects you to an unending stream of joy, connection, abundance and peace.
Keys To Trusting Your Heart’s Desire
1. Cultivate Heart-Based Emotions
Your heart is your power source, plugged into unconditional love and radiant light. You get to strengthen that power by connecting more to your heart, or weaken it by unplugging your heart from your mind and ego.
In order to follow your true heart’s desire, you must practice living in your heart.
Take some deep breaths, and imagine your inhale going into your heart and your exhale coming out from your heart. This begins to anchor your awareness in your heart, allowing it to inform you. The easiest heart-based feeling to cultivate is gratitude and appreciation. This can be for anything: any person, any item in your room, any experience that you can authentically feel gratitude for in this moment. Other heart-based emotions include peacefulness, calmness, joy, and harmony.
2. Build Self-Awareness
Following our hearts without self-awareness is often what people think of when judging others who follow their hearts as irresponsible and dumb. A lack of self-awareness results in following your heart blindly. Love does not make us blind. Our lack of practice in knowing our thoughts, motivations and fears do.
We’ve all had friends who say they are “following their hearts,” and from your view, you see they are being foolish and know the end result will be bad for them. This seems to happen most often around money and relationships. What’s up with that?
They say love is blind. On the highest level, it is; for love does not judge and sees all as divine. But as you know, the saying “love is blind” usually implies choices made that result in negative outcomes. Blindness comes from unwillingness to take an honest look at yourself or simply a lack of education or experience in being self-aware. Self-awareness naturally extends to awareness of others.
When you make choices or take action without taking a look at your motivations, beliefs, doubts and fears, you are using more wishful thinking than your heart’s guidance. You want more prosperity, so you invest in something that in the end is a scheme or doesn’t work out. You want more love, and wind up in a relationship that is manipulative or abusive. What is happening is that you are actually being guided by your ego, the one who wants what they want and wants it now, the one who is so painfully lacking the experience of love, attention, abundance, and vibrant well being you want now.
Getting to know yourself is a path of compassionate awareness. You might take on a practice such as meditating in the morning. Remember that self-awareness isn’t just those 5 minutes or an hour you set aside. That is your “practice” time that enhances your ability to have that awareness 24/7, any moment you remember to, with an attitude of loving attention as opposed to if you are doing it right or wrong.
3. Be Committed to Opening Your Heart
When we begin to cultivate heart-based feelings, often all the excuses, feelings and experiences that are not of the heart surface. Normally we try to push those aside, especially when we are committed to a spiritual love-centered path. Even when our goal is to be positive and loving, it’s easy to think that our job is to remove, destroy or ignore anything that is “not” that. Your fears, pain, doubt, guilt, anger, grief and frustration do not go away when you push them aside. They surface to ask for the loving attention of your heart.
It is the brave warrior that is willing to open her heart and say, “Yes!” to what is presenting in the moment.
Notice the ways you escape what you are being called to notice and love, such as through eating, watching television, shopping or drugs. Be gentle on yourself, especially in challenging and stressful situations. Know you really are doing the best you can in the moment!
As we open our hearts, what we are really doing is melting away the blocks of protection we’ve put over our already-open hearts. You might feel palpable sensations in your heart, whether pressure, chest pain or changes in your heartbeat. Always seek medical attention if you are drawn to, and also be open to the possibility that your heart is simply opening.
In my personal experience when confronted with my own fears, worries or doubts, there have been times when I feel I can’t breathe. I feel pressure on my chest as if my lungs are closing, my throat feels blocked, and as like I'm going to have a panic attack. I think, “I can’t stay in this body! Let me out!” Each time this has occurred and I choose to stay with my experience, breathe into my fears and trust my process, my heart has opened to love more than ever before.
Please remember that what you do for yourself you do for the entire collective of people on the planet. While our experiences are personal, they are also a part of what is happening to everyone and we are feeling it all. I acknowledge and thank you for being brave, for being committed to love despite your fears, and for transforming the entire world through your own practice.
4. Examine Your Heart’s Desire
Being willing to be honest about all your thoughts and feelings will give you clarity about your true heart’s desire. Take a piece of paper out and make two columns. At the top of the left column write the words, “My Heart’s Desire” and at the top of the right column, “My Fears”. The more you’ve practiced cultivating heart-based emotions, the easier it will be to know the difference between your heart and your head or ego. Our job isn’t to get rid of the ego, but to live first and foremost in our hearts, allowing the heart to inform the mind and ego.
My Heart’s Desire My Fears
Be in romantic loving relationship I like my independence.
I’m too old, ugly, fat, poor…
I don’t want to get hurt again.
Have the career of my dreams I can’t make money doing that.
I have responsibilities.
I don’t have enough experience.
Take a look at your fears column and notice that most of them are based on your past experiences, your assumptions about your life and reality, and on what is lacking or “not enough”. You’re not good enough, no job or person is good enough, there’s not enough money, not enough time, etc. In order to protect yourself, you must stay in the same spot you are in now. Even if it is painful, at least you’re surviving.
Consider that if you want to follow your heart, then you must honor your fears by respecting them. Ask them how you can serve them. Thank them for trying to protect you. Let them know you are there, to simply love them and honor them.
5. Notice Your Heart’s Desire Right Now
Once you are aware of what is not your heart’s desire, you can open up to what is. Your heart’s desire comes from a place of pure love, where trusting yourself and a feeling of peacefulness and enthusiasm for life reside. It has no set future plans, meaning that it is in the timeless place of the present moment. Your heart nudges you, in this moment.
It is so easy to navigate your day on automatic pilot. This is often experiences as a constant to-do list in your head. It is a list of “shoulds”, of judgments about yourself and what you or others should be doing. We rush around, keeping busy, shutting out the quiet guidance of our hearts.
Your heart’s guidance most often arises as a gentle feeling, a soft voice or image in the background of your busy mind. It might nudge you to stop and enjoy the scenery around you, take a walk, drink some water, or give loving attention to a friend. Your true heart’s desire is to have the life of your dreams right now, in this moment, and you can! All you desire, nothing lacking, resides in your heart. Your future does not hold the place of your dreams fulfilled. Right now, this moment, does.
Your heart knows that you are perfect just as you are in this moment, and so is everyone else, even with all your fears, judgments and shortcomings. This means that you have the choice in this moment to enjoy your life just as it is.
Your heart gives you power in any situation, for if there is nothing to fix or fight against, then all that is left is to take the most loving action, for yourself and others, in the moment.
It might assist you to think of someone whom is the most loving being you know. It could be someone in your life, someone like Jesus, Buddha or Mother Theresa, or your divine guides and angels. Ask yourself, what would the angels do? What would Jesus do? What would my true divine self do?
6. Be Willing to Make Mistakes
Let’s say you want to have a better relationship with a friend or partner. Your heart’s desire is to have more love present, more understanding, connection or better communication. You’ve noticed that you have a list of fears: They don’t care about what I have to say. They’ll leave if I am honest about my feelings or opinion. They’re just like that and are never going to change. I’ve tried that before and it made it worse.
When you take action from those fears, that action often seems to backfire. However, consider that even if you choose to take action when aware of your fears that are still present, it is movement in the direction of your heart’s desire. You are practicing! You have committed to practicing self-awareness (see #2). You can begin to unravel the difference between your fears and your heart’s desire. You don’t have to wait. Every experience can teach you how to live in and trust your heart more and more.
Living a life trapped in the box of fearing rejection, upset or failure may have us feel safe, yet at the same time closes us off to the stream of possibility that our hearts offer. We all want more freedom, self-expression, joy, pleasure, abundance and connection. We can have more when we choose to trust our heart’s desire and take action from that desire.
The Truth of Who You Are
The truth of who you are is that you are not lacking in anything, and the one to give you what you want is you. No amount of money, no amount of sage advice or guidance from another, no amount of attention or love from another can give this to you.
Your heart is crying out to let you know that YOU are the one who contains all you desire.
When you are willing to take a look at yourself honestly and cultivate love, compassion, forgiveness and trust, then the universe can provide you with what you are wanting in your outer experiences.
Your heart is waiting for you to fall in love with yourself! It is asking you to fall in love with all that you are and your life just as it is now. Take the time to slow down, to breathe, and to take a step in that direction in this moment. Your heart will never fail you. No matter how small that step is, such as to smile at someone in the grocery line, to say hello to a neighbor, to pet your dog or smell a flower, your heart is guiding you to live in this precious now moment and take actions that infuse you with joy.
It's not just you, my beloved. The world is transforming and we're all in this together. You are a master and expert in your unique experiences and contribution to the world. Together we'll navigate through these challenging yet oh so juicy and magical times.