When it comes to creating your future, I’ve noticed lately that a lot of people in my life aren’t quite sure what they want.
We move around the country and I am the planner. How do I choose where to go next? I start by trusting myself. It’s been an AMAZING ride so far, almost 2 years! I have noticed that our adventure is about enjoying where we are, not about where we go. It’s a big country, and I could go crazy with where to go, what to see, where to stay. I research from a place of joy, trust and detachment. If I notice I am stressed, doubtful, or overwhelmed, I take a break from planning. With more people RVing than ever before, 2021 is a crazy year for full time RV living, and if you can believe it, I’m already planning 2022. My mind says, “But I want to be free, to flow from place to place, not plan everything out so specifically.” That’s nice, AND, I Am Open. So be it if I book places a year in advance, and it will unfold as it does (e.g. in comes COVID last year). I could doubt myself, I could say we’re missing out on xyz things we could be doing or experiencing somewhere else. I could worry that my husband won’t enjoy my choices. I could worry there’s “not enough” for us, that we won’t find good places to stay since there are so many people RVing now. There’s a pull toward that worry and doubt, and I catch it and say, “No, thank you.”
I also see worry and doubt with the people in my life who are unsure of what they want. What if I make the wrong choice? What if I made the wrong choices already? What if my loved one is upset with my choice? What if I’m missing out because I didn’t make that other choice instead?
Abundance is our natural state, and there are an abundance of choices! Being without limitations can be scary, can feel “unsafe”, so it can be easier to put limitations on what we can have. (I can’t do that because I don’t have the money, time, resources, so and so wouldn’t like it, someone else says it’s not a good thing to do/have/be, the news or experts say there aren’t enough jobs/housing etc.)
There are a lot of voices in our head, so it can be challenging to discern what we really want.
The truth is, your true divine self came here with a very clear intention of what it wanted. This intention expresses in you being your best and brightest self, in service to all beings everywhere. Making choices from your heart means you want the best for everyone, starting with you, and trust how things unfold.
Then there’s the other voices, the ones that seek to understand for the sake of pontificating, or to be logical, scientific, be accepted, do it right, or be a responsible adult.
To add to the challenge (and opportunity!), in this transitional time on the planet, the new is being created in a new way. This is unknown territory we are creating together, outside of what we already know. Is it no wonder that so many are uncertain of their futures and what they want? From a denser perspective, the world is falling apart. From a larger perspective, the world is transforming, the old giving way to the new. Your soul knows the way, and your mind wants predictability. Creating a new world is anything but predictable.
Instead of wondering if your choice is the wrong one, or you just don’t want things to be worse than they are now, what if you asked, “What if this will be even better than I can imagine?”
How can you go in the direction of what you want, even if you’re not certain?
First, there is no wrong choice. Your soul knows the way. This means that no matter your choice, which includes not making one, you are offered an experience that will serve your growth and expansion, if you choose to view any challenges from that perspective.
Second, you can choose to take responsibility for all your experiences. When things happen, you choose to interpret them for better or for worse, or you choose to let someone else’s interpretation (friends, family, experts) to be more valid than your own.
Third, you can choose to trust yourself. You may not know exactly what you want consciously, but you DO know how you want to experience yourself and your life.
Get out that pen and paper and write down states of being you would like to have more of. This doesn’t mean fleeting emotions based on if you have an experience or not.
By getting to the core of how you want to experience your life, you also get to the core of your soul’s intention for being here. Every experience you have, the good, the bad and the ugly, is in the name of fulfilling that mission.
Here are a few states of being you might consider:
Oneness / Unity
These are ways of being present for yourself, for others, for the world. They influence your perception, and magnetize actions, experiences, people, inspiration, all you need to BE more of those energies.
Be aware that above listed states can be conditional. I feel joy when something happens, but then not after it’s over or taken away. I love you when/if… I say “thank you” because it is a nice thing to do but don’t actually experience gratitude.
These states of being I am talking about are unconditional, not contingent upon anything that occurs in this temporary illusion of the physical world.
After you make your list, look to see how you already have actions in your life that bring you into these states of being. Add those to each item on your list.
Joy – I experience joy when…. I garden, I walk in nature, I hear birds sing, I dance, I assist someone, I look at the clouds
Abundance – I experience abundance when… I notice my breath, I do artwork, in the Spring as flowers bloom, I look at the stars
Trust – I experience trust when… I put my hand on my heart and say, “In this moment, I trust myself. I trust my life.”, I notice my body able to walk and move, I share my truth with someone I feel safe with
Simply begin with “I experience ___ when…”, and write whatever comes to mind, without editing.
These are your resources to cultivate more of!
The more attention and inspired action you put on what you want more of, the more you will have. These states of being are also miracle makers, opening the space for all you could ever want.
Make this fun and easy by starting with one state of being, and just one action. This might be authentically thanking your water, infusing it with your loving gratitude, before you drink it. It might be a memory of something that brought you joy years ago that sparks you now to start doing again.
This will lead you to more, and more, and more…and then there you are, creating and living your vision (that was there all along!). One step at a time. TODAY.
It’s time to more purposefully choose the direction you want to go in, even if you don’t have any idea “how” that will look. Start with how you want to feel, experience and BE – in your body, in your mind, in your perception of life and the world. Nothing can take away your free will of how you experience and interpret your reality.
All is unfolding perfectly in your life, and All Is Truly Well.
I’ve always been a seeker, specifically of all that expand beyond, and bridge, a science-based view of reality. For those of us seekers, there comes a cross-roads while reading, watching and practicing other’s suggestions and insights. One path is easy and clear: all these people, with their knowledge and experience, clearly know how to have a better life and are doing it better than me. This comparing doesn’t just occur for those seeking the usual success, money or health. It’s also affects those of us seeking spiritual upliftment, ascension, awakening, purpose and to be our best and brightest selves. We all want to be our best, in all ways.
The Well-Worn Path
This is the path that is easy and automatic, is the one that insists, and finds proof, that I am broken, not enough, or that there is something wrong with me. If I only try harder, do it better, more, or be more disciplined, then I’ll get to that place that I hear and read so many others have arrived to. They have all the answers, all the tips and tricks, the formulas and the steps. They promise, if I will do what they say, I’ll be free of whatever is bothering me.
Most of these authors, teachers, authorities, or parents are like you and me: they want to assist others and be of service and support. Heck, read my very own blogs and I’ve got your steps and tricks right there for you. So, it’s not about them, it’s about me.
The thing is, the ego, meaning the doubt, the fear, the part of me that needs to be in control, knows every button to push to drop me into that doubt. It’s an easy albeit miserable path, especially since the collective consciousness, the average person, primarily agrees with a reality that is broken, wrong and needs to be fixed. We’ve been living in it for many centuries. Just turn on the news, it’s all right there.
It’s important to call this out, because it’s not going anywhere. That’s the catch. Those people you read, listen or talk to aren’t just suddenly in that state of being. They did what it took, and they keep doing it. If they tell you otherwise, they are lying. You see, the promised land isn’t one day someday. I’m not going to wake up one morning and say, “Gosh, I suddenly love myself completely, have no doubt about anything, no fear, no concerns, no lack, no upsets, no pain, no judgment!” Instead, it’s a moment by moment commitment and choice. This is actually a wonderful realization to be celebrated! You always have a choice!
The Second Path
Heaven, Eden, Nirvana is here and now. This path takes true love and compassion. It takes hard work and commitment. It also takes great surrender and trust. It’s a dance, to work hard yet surrender and stop trying to force an outcome or do it right. It takes noticing, an ever-refining awareness to notice the judgments, the reactions, the habits that feed doubt and lack, with a commitment to bringing loving compassion to those aspects of yourself, and others. Isn't it funny how challenging it is to be light-hearted, playful, joy-filled and free?! I mean, come on, you gotta laugh at whomever first figured out how get us to think "responsible grown-up" = don't be too happy, positive or uplifted.
This path takes the conscious choice of where to put your attention. Are you willing to put your attention on all the beauty, love, perfection, joy, radiance, vibrant well-being that is ever-flowing, where solutions naturally arise because you are in a space where problems don’t exist? Or do you focus on the problems, what’s wrong and bad about yourself and the world, and look to fix that? Outcomes can be forced, threats and punishment work, but at what cost?
When it comes down to it, the question becomes: do you want to have your Soul lead, Divine You, the one who takes its lead from Divine Intelligence (aka God), or the little you that feels separate, powerless, and not enough? You are free to choose either. You can live a good life by finding your identity through feeling productive in society, fitting in, being liked and approved of, or being successful in your career and finances. You can be of great contribution by focusing on fixing the problems of the world.
At this point in our evolution, fixing the problems of the world by finding what’s wrong and looking to fix them has gotten us as far as it has. We have come to a point that is beyond this, a place of new possibility, of a world of connection and unity, where All beings are loved and cared for, and miracles are the norm. There are more of us waking up to the truth of our own divinity than ever before. This is a state of being from which all solutions arise. We are already there, it just takes the willingness to see it (and kick to the curb all the logical proof the ego will come up with of how “love is the answer” is a ridiculous notion).
Instead of measuring yourself up against the appearance of others, remember that we are much more similar than different. It is our diversity that unifies us. In nature, every petal on every flower, every leaf on every tree, is unique. You are unique. You belong already, to this diversity of life. You deserve to thrive, because you were born. You don’t need to seek your worth by finding others that agree with you nor by comparing yourself to anyone else’s experience.
This alternate path asks that you trust yourself, that you trust that the universe is always on your side, and that you are and life is unfolding perfectly for your own growth and contribution to the world. It all points you toward Divine Truth, toward unconditional love, acceptance, compassion, freedom, joy, ease, peace, grace - starting within you.
Instead of putting your attention on other’s views, opinions and reactions, you can choose to get to know yourself. Then, others become resources of loving connection, spiritual family and support. This just takes a willingness to explore your unique ever-expanding expression of how YOU connect to the Divine, of how your intuition expresses, of your values, or what makes your heart sing and brings you joy in service to the world. It also takes a willingness to compassionately explore your own fears, doubts, resentments, limits of what you say you can or can’t have or do, and what you find wrong, those places you need to protect from more harm.
This is true freedom!
Love is the divine protector and the divine manifestor, and it is everywhere eternally flowing. It is so potent and radiant, that inserting that love and trust for just one moment, one breath, it can shift everything.
The dance afoot is that the more you reach toward uplifting states, the more those denser states will arise to be healed, loved, and released. There is nothing wrong with you or the world! The universe - from the farthest sun to Gaia herself, to your own DNA - is supporting and celebrating your empowerment. What is available now, more than ever, is to create the world you want. It’s a big responsibility to realize how easily you can insert love or hate, trust or fear, lack or abundance into your life and the world. But how awesome to know we are free to choose!
So fuck this one day some day I’ll be as good as that other person, or I’ll arrive at the “Me” that I see as my best self (that’s more comparing!). TODAY, choose to go in the direction of trusting you are exactly where and as you’re meant to be in this moment. Choose to trust your choices, your promptings, and if mistakes happen, embrace the lessons. For you are the Divine in form, loved beyond measure, and it is time for you to claim your right to BE!
I AM Love, Joy, and Abundance!
I AM Divine Intelligence, and all solutions are manifest now!
Divine Presence, fill my mind and body with your Radiance!
I Trust Myself!
It's not just you, my beloved. The world is transforming and we're all in this together. You are a master and expert in your unique experiences and contribution to the world. Together we'll navigate through these challenging yet oh so juicy and magical times.