Navigating Uncertainty: How Do You Know What You Really Want?

When it comes to creating your future, I’ve noticed lately that a lot of people in my life aren’t quite sure what they want.
 
We move around the country and I am the planner.  How do I choose where to go next?  I start by trusting myself.  It’s been an AMAZING ride so far, almost 2 years!  I have noticed that our adventure is about enjoying where we are, not about where we go.  It’s a big country, and I could go crazy with where to go, what to see, where to stay.  I research from a place of joy, trust and detachment.  If I notice I am stressed, doubtful, or overwhelmed, I take a break from planning.  With more people RVing than ever before, 2021 is a crazy year for full time RV living, and if you can believe it, I’m already planning 2022.  My mind says, “But I want to be free, to flow from place to place, not plan everything out so specifically.”  That’s nice, AND, I Am Open.  So be it if I book places a year in advance, and it will unfold as it does (e.g. in comes COVID last year).  I could doubt myself, I could say we’re missing out on xyz things we could be doing or experiencing somewhere else.  I could worry that my husband won’t enjoy my choices.  I could worry there’s “not enough” for us, that we won’t find good places to stay since there are so many people RVing now.  There’s a pull toward that worry and doubt, and I catch it and say, “No, thank you.” 
 
I also see worry and doubt with the people in my life who are unsure of what they want.  What if I make the wrong choice?  What if I made the wrong choices already?  What if my loved one is upset with my choice?  What if I’m missing out because I didn’t make that other choice instead? 
 
Abundance is our natural state, and there are an abundance of choices!  Being without limitations can be scary, can feel “unsafe”, so it can be easier to put limitations on what we can have. (I can’t do that because I don’t have the money, time, resources, so and so wouldn’t like it, someone else says it’s not a good thing to do/have/be, the news or experts say there aren’t enough jobs/housing etc.)
 
There are a lot of voices in our head, so it can be challenging to discern what we really want.
 
The truth is, your true divine self came here with a very clear intention of what it wanted.  This intention expresses in you being your best and brightest self, in service to all beings everywhere.  Making choices from your heart means you want the best for everyone, starting with you, and trust how things unfold.
 
Then there’s the other voices, the ones that seek to understand for the sake of pontificating, or to be logical, scientific, be accepted, do it right, or be a responsible adult. 
 
To add to the challenge (and opportunity!), in this transitional time on the planet, the new is being created in a new way.  This is unknown territory we are creating together, outside of what we already know.  Is it no wonder that so many are uncertain of their futures and what they want?  From a denser perspective, the world is falling apart.  From a larger perspective, the world is transforming, the old giving way to the new.  Your soul knows the way, and your mind wants predictability.  Creating a new world is anything but predictable.
 
Instead of wondering if your choice is the wrong one, or you just don’t want things to be worse than they are now, what if you asked, “What if this will be even better than I can imagine?”
 
How can you go in the direction of what you want, even if you’re not certain?
 
First, there is no wrong choice.  Your soul knows the way.  This means that no matter your choice, which includes not making one, you are offered an experience that will serve your growth and expansion, if you choose to view any challenges from that perspective.
 
Second, you can choose to take responsibility for all your experiences.  When things happen, you choose to interpret them for better or for worse, or you choose to let someone else’s interpretation (friends, family, experts) to be more valid than your own.
 
Third, you can choose to trust yourself.   You may not know exactly what you want consciously, but you DO know how you want to experience yourself and your life. 
 
Get out that pen and paper and write down states of being you would like to have more of.  This doesn’t mean fleeting emotions based on if you have an experience or not. 
 
By getting to the core of how you want to experience your life, you also get to the core of your soul’s intention for being here.  Every experience you have, the good, the bad and the ugly, is in the name of fulfilling that mission.   
 
Breathe. 
 
Here are a few states of being you might consider:
Peace
Abundance
Compassion
Gratitude
Love
Joy
Clarity
Trust
Divine Intelligence
Radiance
Healing
Oneness / Unity
 
These are ways of being present for yourself, for others, for the world.  They influence your perception, and magnetize actions, experiences, people, inspiration, all you need to BE more of those energies.
 
Be aware that above listed states can be conditional.  I feel joy when something happens, but then not after it’s over or taken away.  I love you when/if…   I say “thank you” because it is a nice thing to do but don’t actually experience gratitude. 
 
These states of being I am talking about are unconditional, not contingent upon anything that occurs in this temporary illusion of the physical world. 
 
After you make your list, look to see how you already have actions in your life that bring you into these states of being. Add those to each item on your list.
 
For example:
Joy – I experience joy when….  I garden, I walk in nature, I hear birds sing, I dance, I assist someone, I look at the clouds
Abundance – I experience abundance when…  I notice my breath, I do artwork, in the Spring as flowers bloom, I look at the stars
Trust – I experience trust when…  I put my hand on my heart and say, “In this moment, I trust myself.  I trust my life.”, I notice my body able to walk and move, I share my truth with someone I feel safe with
 
Simply begin with “I experience ___ when…”, and write whatever comes to mind, without editing. 
 
These are your resources to cultivate more of!
 
The more attention and inspired action you put on what you want more of, the more you will have.  These states of being are also miracle makers, opening the space for all you could ever want.
 
Make this fun and easy by starting with one state of being, and just one action.  This might be authentically thanking your water, infusing it with your loving gratitude, before you drink it.  It might be a memory of something that brought you joy years ago that sparks you now to start doing again.
 
This will lead you to more, and more, and more…and then there you are, creating and living your vision (that was there all along!).  One step at a time. TODAY.
 
It’s time to more purposefully choose the direction you want to go in, even if you don’t have any idea “how” that will look.  Start with how you want to feel, experience and BE – in your body, in your mind, in your perception of life and the world.  Nothing can take away your free will of how you experience and interpret your reality.
 
All is unfolding perfectly in your life, and All Is Truly Well.