I’ve always been a seeker, specifically of all that expand beyond, and bridge, a science-based view of reality. For those of us seekers, there comes a cross-roads while reading, watching and practicing other’s suggestions and insights. One path is easy and clear: all these people, with their knowledge and experience, clearly know how to have a better life and are doing it better than me. This comparing doesn’t just occur for those seeking the usual success, money or health. It’s also affects those of us seeking spiritual upliftment, ascension, awakening, purpose and to be our best and brightest selves. We all want to be our best, in all ways.
The Well-Worn Path
This is the path that is easy and automatic, is the one that insists, and finds proof, that I am broken, not enough, or that there is something wrong with me. If I only try harder, do it better, more, or be more disciplined, then I’ll get to that place that I hear and read so many others have arrived to. They have all the answers, all the tips and tricks, the formulas and the steps. They promise, if I will do what they say, I’ll be free of whatever is bothering me.
Most of these authors, teachers, authorities, or parents are like you and me: they want to assist others and be of service and support. Heck, read my very own blogs and I’ve got your steps and tricks right there for you. So, it’s not about them, it’s about me.
The thing is, the ego, meaning the doubt, the fear, the part of me that needs to be in control, knows every button to push to drop me into that doubt. It’s an easy albeit miserable path, especially since the collective consciousness, the average person, primarily agrees with a reality that is broken, wrong and needs to be fixed. We’ve been living in it for many centuries. Just turn on the news, it’s all right there.
It’s important to call this out, because it’s not going anywhere. That’s the catch. Those people you read, listen or talk to aren’t just suddenly in that state of being. They did what it took, and they keep doing it. If they tell you otherwise, they are lying. You see, the promised land isn’t one day someday. I’m not going to wake up one morning and say, “Gosh, I suddenly love myself completely, have no doubt about anything, no fear, no concerns, no lack, no upsets, no pain, no judgment!” Instead, it’s a moment by moment commitment and choice. This is actually a wonderful realization to be celebrated! You always have a choice!
The Second Path
Heaven, Eden, Nirvana is here and now. This path takes true love and compassion. It takes hard work and commitment. It also takes great surrender and trust. It’s a dance, to work hard yet surrender and stop trying to force an outcome or do it right. It takes noticing, an ever-refining awareness to notice the judgments, the reactions, the habits that feed doubt and lack, with a commitment to bringing loving compassion to those aspects of yourself, and others. Isn't it funny how challenging it is to be light-hearted, playful, joy-filled and free?! I mean, come on, you gotta laugh at whomever first figured out how get us to think "responsible grown-up" = don't be too happy, positive or uplifted.
This path takes the conscious choice of where to put your attention. Are you willing to put your attention on all the beauty, love, perfection, joy, radiance, vibrant well-being that is ever-flowing, where solutions naturally arise because you are in a space where problems don’t exist? Or do you focus on the problems, what’s wrong and bad about yourself and the world, and look to fix that? Outcomes can be forced, threats and punishment work, but at what cost?
When it comes down to it, the question becomes: do you want to have your Soul lead, Divine You, the one who takes its lead from Divine Intelligence (aka God), or the little you that feels separate, powerless, and not enough? You are free to choose either. You can live a good life by finding your identity through feeling productive in society, fitting in, being liked and approved of, or being successful in your career and finances. You can be of great contribution by focusing on fixing the problems of the world.
At this point in our evolution, fixing the problems of the world by finding what’s wrong and looking to fix them has gotten us as far as it has. We have come to a point that is beyond this, a place of new possibility, of a world of connection and unity, where All beings are loved and cared for, and miracles are the norm. There are more of us waking up to the truth of our own divinity than ever before. This is a state of being from which all solutions arise. We are already there, it just takes the willingness to see it (and kick to the curb all the logical proof the ego will come up with of how “love is the answer” is a ridiculous notion).
Instead of measuring yourself up against the appearance of others, remember that we are much more similar than different. It is our diversity that unifies us. In nature, every petal on every flower, every leaf on every tree, is unique. You are unique. You belong already, to this diversity of life. You deserve to thrive, because you were born. You don’t need to seek your worth by finding others that agree with you nor by comparing yourself to anyone else’s experience.
This alternate path asks that you trust yourself, that you trust that the universe is always on your side, and that you are and life is unfolding perfectly for your own growth and contribution to the world. It all points you toward Divine Truth, toward unconditional love, acceptance, compassion, freedom, joy, ease, peace, grace - starting within you.
Instead of putting your attention on other’s views, opinions and reactions, you can choose to get to know yourself. Then, others become resources of loving connection, spiritual family and support. This just takes a willingness to explore your unique ever-expanding expression of how YOU connect to the Divine, of how your intuition expresses, of your values, or what makes your heart sing and brings you joy in service to the world. It also takes a willingness to compassionately explore your own fears, doubts, resentments, limits of what you say you can or can’t have or do, and what you find wrong, those places you need to protect from more harm.
This is true freedom!
Love is the divine protector and the divine manifestor, and it is everywhere eternally flowing. It is so potent and radiant, that inserting that love and trust for just one moment, one breath, it can shift everything.
The dance afoot is that the more you reach toward uplifting states, the more those denser states will arise to be healed, loved, and released. There is nothing wrong with you or the world! The universe - from the farthest sun to Gaia herself, to your own DNA - is supporting and celebrating your empowerment. What is available now, more than ever, is to create the world you want. It’s a big responsibility to realize how easily you can insert love or hate, trust or fear, lack or abundance into your life and the world. But how awesome to know we are free to choose!
So fuck this one day some day I’ll be as good as that other person, or I’ll arrive at the “Me” that I see as my best self (that’s more comparing!). TODAY, choose to go in the direction of trusting you are exactly where and as you’re meant to be in this moment. Choose to trust your choices, your promptings, and if mistakes happen, embrace the lessons. For you are the Divine in form, loved beyond measure, and it is time for you to claim your right to BE!
I AM Love, Joy, and Abundance!
I AM Divine Intelligence, and all solutions are manifest now!
Divine Presence, fill my mind and body with your Radiance!
I Trust Myself!
It's not just you, my beloved. The world is transforming and we're all in this together. You are a master and expert in your unique experiences and contribution to the world. Together we'll navigate through these challenging yet oh so juicy and magical times.